So, I’ve had two proper midwife appointments now. The most recent one was last Tuesday.
Now, I’m not sure if it’s just me being a bit socially awkward or what but I find them really uncomfortable. I think, what I want out of these appointments is for her to give me some information about what is actually happening to me and what to expect but she doesn’t really. She asks me a couple of questions, the answer to which is usually “yeah, I’m feeling alright actually”, then she asks me if I have any questions for her and I freeze. It’s like that bit at the end of an interview when, even if you’ve prepared questions, you realise they’ve already answered them and you’re panicking about what to say. The thing is I haven’t prepared any questions for her because I don’t know what answers I need from her to put my mind at rest. I’ve never done this before.
This time the student midwife that was shadowing her was actually a lot more reassuring than the actual midwife. She talked me through everything that would happen in that appointment after I’d answered some questions. She told me about how every appointment from now on they’d have a feel of my belly to work out where the baby is, a little listen to the heartbeat and a measured of my ever-expanding middle. Just being talked through it made me feel better.
I don’t know if it’s just me thinking too much or what but I always come away from these appointments feeling a bit odd. I don’t really know how to fix it though. Anyone else felt like this? Anyone have any suggestions as to what questions to ask to try to get the info I think I need to feel better? Help!