Call the midwife

So, I’ve had two proper midwife appointments now. The most recent one was last Tuesday.

Now, I’m not sure if it’s just me being a bit socially awkward or what but I find them really uncomfortable. I think, what I want out of these appointments is for her to give me some information about what is actually happening to me and what to expect but she doesn’t really. She asks me a couple of questions, the answer to which is usually “yeah, I’m feeling alright actually”, then she asks me if I have any questions for her and I freeze. It’s like that bit at the end of an interview when, even if you’ve prepared questions, you realise they’ve already answered them and you’re panicking about what to say. The thing is I haven’t prepared any questions for her because I don’t know what answers I need from her to put my mind at rest. I’ve never done this before.

This time the student midwife that was shadowing her was actually a lot more reassuring than the actual midwife. She talked me through everything that would happen in that appointment after I’d answered some questions. She told me about how every appointment from now on they’d have a feel of my belly to work out where the baby is, a little listen to the heartbeat and a measured of my ever-expanding middle. Just being talked through it made me feel better.

I don’t know if it’s just me thinking too much or what but I always come away from these appointments feeling a bit odd. I don’t really know how to fix it though. Anyone else felt like this? Anyone have any suggestions as to what questions to ask to try to get the info I think I need to feel better? Help!



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3 responses to “Call the midwife”

  1. Kezzie says:

    I can totally understand that! I’m always like that in new situations where information is disseminated to me. I haven’t got a clue what to ask!!!

  2. Do you know, thats such an interesting point – one I’d never thought of really! When you’re having your first baby, if you haven’t been along to an appointment with a family member or something before, then it must be quite daunting. I’m not sure I have any advice on what to ask, I hate my midwife appointments to be honest as it feels like they don’t actually do anything apart from measure my tummy!
    I’d maybe just have a sit and think about if there is actually anything you want to know about, anything to do with the birth or after the birth etc maybe?

    • Thanks. Yeah, it just feels like a bit of an awkward situation. I might try and rope the other half or someone else into coming with me to the next one for a bit of back up. See if that helps. Xxx

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